I very much relate to being an over-thinker! An analyser. And also to decision fatigue. Oh yes.
Thanks for writing about this, Lyndsay. It's such a fascinating topic. And congratulations to you on making some big milestone decisions. It's brave!
I once had the privilege of doing some group coaching with uber successful author, Sophie Hannah. She's also a trained coach. She taught us this concept called 'deciding on purpose'. I can't remember the full explanation but I always remember the lesson - as long as *you* feel good about the reasons you're making a decision. Then that's enough to go for it.
This framing has helped me along the way I think. So even if something seems to go against logic or 'the rules', if you are aligned with the reasons why you're doing it, that's a good sign.
Our brains like the idea that things are binary. That there is a 'right' decision and a 'wrong' one. But really that's not the case, is it?
Hi Janelle ☺️ I'm glad you enjoyed it and I'm glad I'm not alone!
I love that way of thinking, and that will certainly help with the fear I have around what other people may think of a decision I make. It shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as you are happy with it 💜
I think it is very rarely the case that things are binary, nothing will be 100 percent right or a 100 percent wrong. There is so much grey in between!
Decision fatigue is real, ugh! I can definitely relate to that. A book that I read a few years ago which I found fascinating and you might be interested in reading is The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz. He talks about this very thing! ✨
An interesting walk through your thoughts, Lyndsay! I'm sure so many people will relate. I loved the light-hearted ending to this piece.
I also really find it helps to just think how incredible it is that I get to have the choice - on whatever it may be. And then just run with whatever I choose as wholeheartedly as possible - knowing I always have the option to change my mind again.
I really like that way of thinking - we are lucky to have a choice and lucky to make a decision out of those choices. And as you've rightly pointed out, we can always change that choice if it's not serving us ☺️
I can so relate Lyndsay, I’ve always been an overthinker and worrier. I’ve found that meditation and mindfulness can stop some of that whirring and it gets me to focus. What do they say you can’t make a bad decision? Sometimes just making one like you say means you’re on a path and you can always be redirected. Funny that we chose the same picture for our posts this week!
Absolutely! I’ve just created some short meditation exercises, I’ll gift them to you for free. If you choose to do any of them, no obligation, I’d welcome feedback and happy to offer tips if it helps. https://payhip.com/b/9x2jZ 🙏💫
Ooooooh, brilliant - you've packed so many fabulous insights into this post, Lyndsay. Thank you so much, from a fellow over-thinker.
Also, I absolutely loved this: "My husband and I made the decision to zig whilst everyone else was zagging and, even though it’s come with its own unique set of challenges, it’s been the best and possibly the most easiest decision I’ve ever made."
I'm going to #bemorelyndsay and aim to zig instead of zag! 🙌
I very much relate to being an over-thinker! An analyser. And also to decision fatigue. Oh yes.
Thanks for writing about this, Lyndsay. It's such a fascinating topic. And congratulations to you on making some big milestone decisions. It's brave!
I once had the privilege of doing some group coaching with uber successful author, Sophie Hannah. She's also a trained coach. She taught us this concept called 'deciding on purpose'. I can't remember the full explanation but I always remember the lesson - as long as *you* feel good about the reasons you're making a decision. Then that's enough to go for it.
This framing has helped me along the way I think. So even if something seems to go against logic or 'the rules', if you are aligned with the reasons why you're doing it, that's a good sign.
Our brains like the idea that things are binary. That there is a 'right' decision and a 'wrong' one. But really that's not the case, is it?
Hi Janelle ☺️ I'm glad you enjoyed it and I'm glad I'm not alone!
I love that way of thinking, and that will certainly help with the fear I have around what other people may think of a decision I make. It shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as you are happy with it 💜
I think it is very rarely the case that things are binary, nothing will be 100 percent right or a 100 percent wrong. There is so much grey in between!
Absolutely
Decision fatigue is real, ugh! I can definitely relate to that. A book that I read a few years ago which I found fascinating and you might be interested in reading is The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz. He talks about this very thing! ✨
Oh thanks Mackenzie, I will definitely check that out!
That sounds right up my street ☺️
An interesting walk through your thoughts, Lyndsay! I'm sure so many people will relate. I loved the light-hearted ending to this piece.
I also really find it helps to just think how incredible it is that I get to have the choice - on whatever it may be. And then just run with whatever I choose as wholeheartedly as possible - knowing I always have the option to change my mind again.
Thank you Jess!
I really like that way of thinking - we are lucky to have a choice and lucky to make a decision out of those choices. And as you've rightly pointed out, we can always change that choice if it's not serving us ☺️
I can so relate Lyndsay, I’ve always been an overthinker and worrier. I’ve found that meditation and mindfulness can stop some of that whirring and it gets me to focus. What do they say you can’t make a bad decision? Sometimes just making one like you say means you’re on a path and you can always be redirected. Funny that we chose the same picture for our posts this week!
I'm glad I'm not alone in these thoughts Louise 🙏
Mindfulness definitely helps me too, and although I think it would be useful for me, I find meditation a challenge.
No decision is a bad decision - I like that! And I think I'd rather make a bad decision than no decision at all.
Hahaha that is funny! Great minds 😉
Absolutely! I’ve just created some short meditation exercises, I’ll gift them to you for free. If you choose to do any of them, no obligation, I’d welcome feedback and happy to offer tips if it helps. https://payhip.com/b/9x2jZ 🙏💫
Oh thank you so much Louise! That is very kind 🥰 I will take a look for sure and let you know how I get on 🙏 x
Much love as always xxx
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Ooooooh, brilliant - you've packed so many fabulous insights into this post, Lyndsay. Thank you so much, from a fellow over-thinker.
Also, I absolutely loved this: "My husband and I made the decision to zig whilst everyone else was zagging and, even though it’s come with its own unique set of challenges, it’s been the best and possibly the most easiest decision I’ve ever made."
I'm going to #bemorelyndsay and aim to zig instead of zag! 🙌
Thanks Rebecca! I'm glad you enjoyed it. There is probably still a lot more to say on the topic too!
Hahaha my husband first said that quote to me and it's really stuck so I stole it 🤣
But I think it's a good reminder that it's good to be different and not to conform all the time 💜